3-Step Situationship Clarity Check

“If their actions confuse you, this ends the guessing”

Estimated time: 7 minutes
Be honest. This only works if you are.

Before You Decide Anything, Answer This Honestly

Confusion usually follows a pattern

You felt secure only when they were actively engaging You hesitated to ask “what are we?” You replayed conversations to decode hidden meaning Plans felt uncertain or loosely defined You justified behavior that didn’t sit right You told yourself “Maybe I’m overthinking.”

Count your checkmarks

If 3 or more are true, this is not overthinking.
This is a clarity gap.

30-Day Behavior Audit

Look at the last 30 days only. Not the beginning. Not the “best moments.” The last 30 days.

Answer objectively:

Initiation

They initiated plans at least 50% of the time They checked in without you prompting

Consistency

Plans were made more than 3–4 days in advance They followed through without repeated rescheduling

Clarity

They used language that defined direction (not “we’ll see”) They did not avoid conversations about the relationship

Investment

They made adjustments when you expressed needs Their actions reduced your anxiety, not increased it

Count your YES answers.

0–2 YES → Low investment.
3–5 YES → Inconsistent.
6–8 YES → Stable effort.

You don’t need to decode chemistry. You need to measure consistency.

Love Or Just Ups and Downs?

Answer honestly

When they pull away, do you:

If yes to most of these, your feelings may be growing from unpredictability not stability.

Now answer this:

If they acted the same way every single week no hot and cold - would you still feel this attached?

If the feeling drops when drama drops, the bond may be built on uncertainty.

Strong feelings do not always mean strong foundation.

The 6-Month Question

Imagine nothing changes

Same mixed signals.
Same unclear future.
Same emotional stress.

Six months from now.

Q1. How will you feel about yourself?

Q2. How much time will you have spent thinking about this?

Q3. Would you feel proud of how you handled it?

Q4. If your best friend was in this exact situation, what would you tell them to do?

Time does not fix unclear behavior. It makes you used to it.

You Have Your Answer Now

If effort is unclear, confusion is not in your head. If feelings rise and fall with attention, the bond may be built on unpredictability.

If nothing changes in 6 months, the cost is real.

You’ve seen the pattern.

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